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Believe in Your Own Sauce

Hey Luvs!

I pray you are well and abounding in every good work.

Over the last couple days, I felt an urge to remind you to embrace your gifts and talents. Even in this season of uncertainty, God has a work for you to do.

Yes, especially in this season….

Has He called you to start a business? Maybe you have the desire to go back to school. Or maybe you find yourself doing what I did the other day.

Asking God for the umpteenth time… Lord, what should I do?

This time, I heard the Holy Spirit say, “What did I give you?

So, in taking stock of what I consider to be my natural abilities – writing, speaking, administrative work, and so forth, I compiled a pretty decent list of attributes that could one day open doors for other opportunities.

My point in sharing this story is that we can sometimes overlook the answers that are staring us right in the face.

If you’re confused today about what path to take in your business or career, consider the question:

What did God give you?

Take stock of your natural inclinations. What are the activities that interest you or come natural to you? This is usually a signpost on the road to destiny. Above all else, embrace the unique way you do any and everything. That quirkiness is what makes you special. It’s the attribute that sets you apart from everyone else. There’s a tribe that needs your ‘special sauce’.

My sister, my brother, it’s time to believe in your own sauce!

You Are Enough

Hey Luvs!

I’m needing some feedback here…. I saw a photo circulating on social media the other day and wondered if you feel the same way I do about this topic…..

The photo was of a woman down on one knee and proposing to a man. Yes, Ma’am. SHE was asking for the man’s hand in marriage. I don’t know the outcome of the scenario. I’m presuming the man accepted, but that’s not my point. And while I don’t minister on relationships, I still have something to say about this business of women proposing to men.

Stop it!

As a woman of God, you must know your worth. It is paramount that you begin to believe what God says about you rather than the garbage the enemy throws your way. We all have our painful stories to share of how the enemy has come to wreak havoc on our self-esteem at times. (You’re too old. You’re too fat. You’re too skinny. Why would anyone want you? Blah, Blah, Blah….)

Nevertheless, I don’t believe God intended for women to propose to men. I can’t find one example in the Bible where a woman took the lead in a relationship and proposed marriage. Plus, men are natural hunters. God crafted them that way. If a man is truly interested in you, he will find a way to pursue you.

“Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her.” — Luke 1:45

I read somewhere that one popular Christian author said she’d rather rake the ocean than propose to a man. That’s my sentiment exactly.

When the time is right, God will send the right man into your life. He will behold you as the beautiful prize that you are. In his eyes, you will be more than enough. You will measure up to more than anything he had ever prayed for or expected in a mate. He will do the proposing!

In the meantime, my prayer is that you become resolute in your stance that you don’t need to take on the world’s way of doing relationships. That means, you proposing marriage to a man is out of the question.

Sis, you are enough. To demonstrate that you believe anything less than this simple truth is not a good look.

If you have something to say about this topic, I welcome your thoughts in the comments field.

Like Formula 409

You may have guessed from the title of today’s post that I’m talking about about perseverance.

When it comes to stories about tenacity and never giving up, the history of this household cleaner ranks at the top of of my list.

The creators of Formula 409 were determined to formulate the best grease-cutting, bacteria busting cleaner on the planet. They endured trial after trial until they finally came up with a winning formula. They may have become weary on their journey, but they didn’t quit.

How many times did these ‘mad scientists’ go back to the drawing board to revamp their formula? You guessed it…..

On the 409th try, a winning formula was declared. Hence the origins of Formula 409, which is now sold in stores from coast-to-coast.

The creators of this popular household cleaner tried more than 400 times to bring their vision to reality.

Now, here’s a question for you….

How many times have you attempted to bring YOUR vision to reality? Did you stop trying after a fourth or fifth person told you, ‘no, that won’t work’?

Have you hit a roadblock and become discouraged? If so, don’t stay there. Keep moving towards the dreams and visions that God has placed in your heart. If you’re weary, rest if you must, but never give up on the treasures God has placed inside you. After all, you’ll never know how close you were to the prize if you quit now. You must keep going.

Setbacks and disappointments are a part of the process. View them as opportunities to learn and grow. Keep moving ahead just like the inventors of Formula 409.

Above all else, remember God’s Word….

Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

— Philippians 1:6

Does this message resonate with you? If so, leave me a note. I’d love to hear from you!

A Good Read: In Pursuit of Purpose

I’m reading for at least the second time now In Pursuit of Purpose by the late Dr. Myles Munroe.  I have a habit of revisiting and holding on to books that have helped me tremendously at different stages of my life.  I’ve read several books by Dr. Munroe and this one is a favorite.  I came across it when I was searching for answers in my early 30s and trying to maneuver a divorce without losing my mind.  This book and the Bible were my guide.  During that season, I remember being determined not to become “a bitter old woman”.  That was my daily prayer. “Lord, don’t let me become bitter.”   Since then, I’ve healed, blossomed and gone on to conquer new terrain thanks to the grace of God.

Today, if you find yourself in a season where you’re wondering about your purpose (Yes, YOU have a purpose!) now that the kids are gone or the job has ended or whatever curve ball life has thrown your way, I highly recommend reading this book.   

Perhaps you discovered your purpose years ago (AWESOME — Good for you!) and need a boost of encouragement or a simple reminder that you are uniquely designed and perfectly fashioned for your purpose – again, I recommend reading this book. It’s a practical and easy read.  Even more, it’s a good reminder that there’s no need for you to try to be like someone else. Embrace your own unique talents and run your own race.  Discovering your purpose and using the gifts and talents that God has given you is what ultimately pleases Him.  I believe  it is in this space —doing what God has called you to do and not every random project under the sun — is what leads to fulfillment in life.  Imagine how frustrating life would be for the person trying to become a physician when God had really fashioned that person to be a great school teacher. Imagine the young minds that will miss out on a unique classroom experience because their intended teacher is off somewhere struggling through medical school instead of being a trailblazer, engaging students with his or her unique style of pedagogy.  Am I talking to you?

I know it’s easy to get sidetracked and cave in to family and/or peer pressure.  Everyone in the family pursued a certain career path and naturally presumed you’d do the same.  But what if God has different plans for you? What if you know in your heart that a certain line of work will only make you miserable? Will you fall in line or will you have the courage to pursue the dream that God has placed in your heart?

I’ve learned to embrace what God has given me and not to covet the talents I don’t have.  For example, you’ll never find me working in an accounting department nor will you ever hear of me working on a musical CD (not even background vocals – lol!).  God has not fashioned me for either of these career paths.  I would fail miserably.

Whatever God has called you to do (your purpose), rest assured that you are perfect for the assignment.  Once you read In Pursuit of Purpose, you’ll realize how important it is for you to discover your purpose.  And when you do, get busy pursing it.  I believe  on the other side of your obedience, someone or something is there waiting for you.  Someone needs your gift.  You are the answer to someone’s prayer. Yes, you are needed and you have value.  You are the missing piece to someone’s puzzle.

In case you’re on the fence and having doubts about your relevance, here’s a passage from the book….     

“When God created you, He built into you all the natural necessities for performing and fulfilling your purposed assignment.  Everyone possesses natural inherent traits that are required for their purpose. In essence, you are the way you are because of why you are.” 

Dr. Myles Munroe

Have you read this book or do you plan to? If so, please let me know by leaving a response in the comments section. I’d love to hear from you!

Stuff My Mom Taught Me

I love this photo of me and my mom. We were working on a family reunion when this picture was taken years ago. My mom is a no-nonsense, God-fearing woman. She’s the rock that keeps family and friends encouraged when life gets crazy.

When I face disappointments, like the time I got passed over for a publicist job in Sacramento that I really wanted, I recall my mom’s advice — “What’s for you is for YOU!”

If you’ve heard this advice before then you know it’s based on the story in I Samuel 16 when the prophet Samuel sought to anoint one of Jesse’s sons as the next King of Israel. This account begins at 1 Samuel 16:5. Jesse presented seven of his sons (v. 10) to Samuel but the oil in Samuel’s horn would not flow on either of their heads. Then Samuel asked Jesse if there was yet another son. David was in the field tending to the sheep when his father, Jesse, sent for him.

“Then Samuel took the horn of oil, and anointed him in the midst of his brethren: and the Spirit of the Lord came upon David from that day forward. So Samuel rose up, and went to Ra-mah.” 1 Samuel 16:13

Do you see what happened here? In the natural, either of David’s brothers appeared to be a reasonable choice for king, but God had the final say. The oil from Samuel’s horn wouldn’t flow until it reached David. Neither of his seven brother’s was God’s choice for king.

And so it is in our lives too. When God has selected you for a position, it doesn’t matter who has gone before you or who appears to have more connections or experience than you. God has the final say. Not man, but God.

Albeit disappointing, we need not fret over the doors that don’t open. We can rest assured that the doors that have been ordained for us to walk through will open at God’s appointed time.

“What’s for you is for you.”

I promise to always remember these words from my mom.

Selah. 

 

It’s Time to Set Boundaries

Do you know her?  She’s the friend who seemingly always has a plate full of “projects” going on.  You know the one – right?  The one that’s always running around with ‘hair on fire’.  The one that’s always at church and always tired when you ask how she’s doing.   

I know her well.  She was once me.

That is, until the wheels fell off my wagon and I had no choice but to sit down.  Hence, I’ve learned to say “no” to projects, meetings and sometimes even people when I foresee there is a propensity for my time to be wasted or my peace of mind disturbed.  God has allowed me to learn this lesson the hard way by bumping my head a few times.  Nevertheless, I’m the wiser for it.  I believe the root of my problem was centered in trying to please everyone while not prioritizing my own need for self-care. I was afraid of what “they” might think of me if I declined to participate.  Alas, I’ve learned.

I believe it was Oprah Winfrey who once said, saying “no” to one thing actually means saying “yes” to something else.  In my case, it meant saying “no” to time wasters and saying “yes” to the projects and plans that God had for my life.  That’s not selfish but rather a revelation that God never intended for neither you nor me to be the answer to EVERYONE’S problem.  

Does this scenario resonate with you? Are you struggling with a “yes” when you know you should have declined the invitation?  If you’re struggling to find the courage to say “no”,  I recommend listening to my interview with Minister Alicia George.  She offers important advice for every woman to consider.

Blessings!


In this podcast, Minister Alicia George provides sound advice on the importance of establishing boundaries. Take a listen!

Gratitude is Always in Style

If you’re into fashion, then you know styles come and go. What’s fashionable this summer may be old news this time next year. Thankfully, in the midst of all the changes, there are timeless classics like a nice pair of black slacks or a well-made leather purse that will never go out of style. You won’t go wrong by adding these two staples to your wardrobe.

Fashions may come and go, but a spirit of gratitude is always in style.

The spirit of gratitude operates much the same way. You can’t go wrong by expressing gratitude or thankfulness. By doing so, you create an atmosphere for more good things to come your way. There’s all kinds of research that supports this theory.

Fashions may come and go, but a spirit of gratitude is always in style.

One of my former pastors often shared a great reminder that what you’re complaining about is someone else’s answered prayer. That job you hate; the children that won’t clean their rooms; that clunker of a car you drive….You get the picture – right? Someone else would gladly trade their present situation for yours. You may not believe it, but it’s true.

I believe an attitude of gratitude opens the door for more goodness to enter our lives.  I believe it pleases God when we express gratitude for even the seemingly small things in life.   After all, everything we have comes from Him.

May we always remember that no matter the season an attitude of gratitude is always in style. You can bank on it!

Selah.

Meditate on this:  “I will bless the Lord at all times: his praise shall continually be in my mouth.” — Psalm 34:1

Beloved, does this message resonate with you? If so, I’d love to read your thoughts in the reply section below.

Rejected, Feeling Like the Parade Has Passed You By?

Do you ever wonder sometimes if you’ve simply missed God’s will for your life? I mean, you’ve screwed up so bad that it’s just too late for any of your dreams to come to pass? After all, it hasn’t happened yet – right?

Or another scenario….You loved a friend but were betrayed. You served your family but your children were ungrateful and your husband distant. You prayed but nothing happened. Is God there? Is He listening? Does He care?

When thinking about rejection, we cannot allow our own thoughts and feelings to rule. The good news is that God has made His position very clear.

But Zion said, “The Lord has forsaken me, the Lord has forgotten me.” “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me.

Isaiah 49:14-16

Here, God’s people felt abandoned and it’s easy to understand why. Their nation had been conquered and their capital city left in ruins. God’s promises to bless his people in His land seem long forgotten. How could this be happening to them?

Firstly, take comfort from their cry. You are not the first person to feel forgotten by God. Feeling that way does not mean you are a failure. God’s people have experienced those feelings for thousands of years.

Secondly, be encouraged by God’s response. He asks a rhetorical question about a mother and baby. God is your Father, how could He forget you? He says that we, His people, are engraved on His hands. Far from forgotten, we are precious to him. To a people who have been conquered, He says that their walls are ever before him. He speaks right into the situation that caused their fear.

Circumstances don’t mean He has forgotten, they mean He is building something better. Remind yourself of His words – I will never forget you!

“Faith is the art of holding onto things in spite of your changing moods and circumstances”

CS Lewis

Dream Sis, But Don’t Sleep

The other day, I saw a phrase online that said, “Dream, but don’t sleep”.  Well, how profound is that, I thought. I don’t know where the phrase originated from, but it’s  definitely good advice. For me, it resonates deeper than any advice column on maneuvering the corporate world.  I’m thinking of spiritual matters.  “For the things which are seen are temporary…”  

If you asked me how to apply this simple phrase to your life, I would tell you to stay vigilant. I would tell you to stay close to God and never let go of His promises. Dream yes, but don’t sleep on the tactics of the enemy to bring discouragement into your life. Stay full of the Word so when the enemy comes (and he will, trust me), you will have a ready answer for his lies. Dream, but don’t forget the greatest dream giver of all – Jesus Christ. Seek council in His Word. Dream and dream bigger, but trust the Word of God as the final authority over all your circumstances.  Don’t sleep on the promises of God.

Selah!

Meditate on this: “For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a for more exceeding and eternal weight of glory, while we do not look at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen.  For the things which are seen are temporary, but the things which are not seen are eternal.”  — 2 Corinthians 4:17-18

When God Gives You A Business Idea: Sista Girl Greeting Cards

Sista Girl Greeting Cards; A True Model for Business Success

Sis, when God gives you a business idea, you can take it to the bank!  And that’s exactly what Rhonda Willingham did after discovering a void in the marketplace.  Check out this inspirational interview she did with me a while back. Blessings!———

Find a need and solve it.  That’s the advice often given to aspiring entrepreneurs. The most successful businesses solve problems and provide much-needed services to the community. Seasoned business leaders frequently attribute such a strategy as being one of the keys to their success.  A perfect example is Sista Girl greeting cards. Rhonda Willingham, a Flint, Michigan native, is the founder and creative force behind the line, which she launched after discovering a void in the marketplace.

“I was working on a thesis for my master’s degree. After completing a series of surveys and interviews with successful black businesswomen, I wanted to thank them for their time,” said Willingham.  “The women told me that their faith in God is what fueled their ambition and made the difference in their careers. They were excelling in fields dominated by white males.  I felt a genuine connection with them.  They were smart, classy and thoughtful women. To show my appreciation for their help with my project, I wanted to send a thank-you card that reflected who they were to me as women and top business professionals,” she said. 

Willingham searched local retailers but couldn’t find cards that she believed were appropriate or even nearly reflected the dynamic women she had connect with during her research.  She settled on basic book markers and sent those instead.  Willingham said that experience planted a seed in her heart. Several years later she decided to launch Culturally Yours with Sista Girl greeting cards as the flagship product.     “I started creating what I didn’t see. When I started the company some of my first customers where white males. They bought the cards to frame and display in their office. The company has evolved and today we’re also producing calendars, journals, t-shirts, and even coloring books, which we just launched last year,” Willingham said. 

Sista Girl greeting cards are hand-crafted using fabric and other specialty materials. Custom orders are also available. Willingham said the cards have been purchased by a diverse client base, including leading influencers in the business and entertainment industry.

“I’ve had women hug me and thank me for creating something that looks like them. From a spiritual aspect those moments are affirming. God is the author and creator.  The cards are a reflection of what God has poured into me. It’s not just a Black woman thing.  It’s a woman thing,” Willingham said. 

To learn more about Sista Girl Greeting cards visit www.sistagirlgreetingcards.com