I love this photo of me and my mom. We were working on a family reunion when this picture was taken years ago. My mom is a no-nonsense, God-fearing woman. She’s the rock that keeps family and friends encouraged when life gets crazy.
When I face disappointments, like the time I got passed over for a publicist job in Sacramento that I really wanted, I recall my mom’s advice — “What’s for you is for YOU!”
If you’ve heard this advice before then you know it’s based on the story in I Samuel 16 when the prophet Samuel sought to anoint one of Jesse’s sons as the next King of Israel. This account begins at 1 Samuel 16:5. Jesse presented seven of his sons (v. 10) to Samuel but the oil in Samuel’s horn would not flow on either of their heads. Then Samuel asked Jesse if there was yet another son. David was in the field tending to the sheep when his father, Jesse, sent for him.
“Then Samuel took the horn of oil, and anointed him in the midst of his brethren: and the Spirit of the Lord came upon David from that day forward. So Samuel rose up, and went to Ra-mah.” 1 Samuel 16:13
Do you see what happened here? In the natural, either of David’s brothers appeared to be a reasonable choice for king, but God had the final say. The oil from Samuel’s horn wouldn’t flow until it reached David. Neither of his seven brother’s was God’s choice for king.
And so it is in our lives too. When God has selected you for a position, it doesn’t matter who has gone before you or who appears to have more connections or experience than you. God has the final say. Not man, but God.
Albeit disappointing, we need not fret over the doors that don’t open. We can rest assured that the doors that have been ordained for us to walk through will open at God’s appointed time.
“What’s for you is for you.”
I promise to always remember these words from my mom.